I often get pulled up by a lot by my friends for being condescending and a little arrogant. My self-righteous belief that we can achieve whatever we want is often the mortar in the concrete that holds the bricks to a very secure a sturdy foundation of my belief system.
I lack sympathy when people tell me the reasons why they can't achieve what they want to. After explaining a list of options or ideas on how to form a way forward and hearing a reason why those options are not possible. I often end up throwing my arms in the air and walk away with an opinion of "they just don't want it bad enough". This is usually the point when my arrogance gets me into trouble.
I believe that our greatest roadblock is our mind. After my mind had paralysed me for so damn long with excuses of why I should "just give up", (I didn't have the finance, the network, someone to believe in me and I was afraid). To see ones that I love with the same challenges makes me want to shake them until their insecurities and fears drop to the ground like pennies until their pockets are empty, and they no longer have that extra weight holding them down.
I believe that we all have a profound purpose. A core value of what an achievement will mean to us. I write songs and chase this dream because I have discovered that I simply "can not". My life is miserable without me asserting my type A personality, living for music, continuing to find my voice, connecting with people. As scared, hard and hurtful as this journey can be for me, life is easier doing it then to not.
Motivation to get work done is sometimes incredibly hard, but I know that every day is a step closer to towards another significant achievement. I set goals on a daily basis and I work and walk towards them.
My other goals are to become a better cook, learn the importance of nutrition, eat better, run daily and do yoga a couple of times a week. All of which I can give you a long list of excuses as to why I quickly fall off the bandwagon. It's too cold to run, I'm exhausted, I'm living on the road 3 days a week its hard to have good food . The truth is, these values and goals are not ingrained into my core (yet). They are not yet a part of my purpose. They are still "wants" rather than "needs". However being prone to the fortnightly flu these values are actively becoming more significant.
I believe that self-awareness is our greatest guide. The universe, God, fate will push us to exactly where we are meant to be. This is when my unforgiving reasoning needs a check in, from time to time. We are all on our own path, and we need to be gentle with one another and ourselves. Life continues to change, and our priorities change too.
Whether you have a child, financial strain, and other roadblocks that challenge you from reaching your goals. I do believe it is important to reconnect once again with our core purpose. Is your dream a "want" or a "need"? How important is achieving this goal to you? How will this make you feel?
If it's saving to buy a house, becoming a sports star, an inspiring kindergarten teacher, whatever your dream is. Here is a little kind reminder that it just takes time. Small achievements turn into big kick ass results.
Creating a habit is easy if you can find joy in celebrating the little things like, "I just sent an important email, GO ME!". It doesn't feel like work to me, it feels like the beginning of a great adventure every day.
As I conclude, I apologise for my unforgiving beliefs. I don't think there is such thing as "I can't". I believe that within all of us we have the potential to be greater. I believe that our purpose is to evolve, to push ourselves and to grow. I think that we have the capabilities of creating a life that we want when we are willing to make sacrifices, create strategies and put a plan into place. I believe knowledge is key and that we can do anything we desire if we are hungry enough to seek the tools we need in order to grow.
Big love, Kat x